for better or for worse

I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

awww... how sweet. such a sentimental vow, looks like it covers almost all of the aspects of a marriage.

but does anyone really abide by it? i mean, really follow thru with it? especially on the for worse bit?

can u really tolerate your other half on bad days when u have an argument? most of all, is it bad to argue?

i feel that arguing is a way of getting to know him. and him getting to know me. but what if he doesn't feel that way? what if he feels that arguing is just not natural or normal for a human being to do? to him things should be a bed of roses all the friggin time, well not all the time lah, but mostly he would like it that there be no friction at all, whatsoever. how do u deal with a person like this? someone who lives in his own ideal little world in his head and hopes that what he wishes will somehow magically transform into the real world? aku jadi transformer la macam ni.

and what about compatibility. is there any 2 people in the world that's 100% compatible with each other? if there is, i'll be son of a gun. sane and wise couples would not harp on this incompatibility issue and they learn how to deal with their differences as they get to know each other along the way. but not this man of mine. he amplifies it and makes it into an issue of its own. come on lah. first of all, we were born from different wombs. then we were brought up differently by different parents who also have differences between the 2 of them. values and thoughts and opinions and all that make us what we are, are definitely different. right? so if u really love your other half, u'd at least make the effort to learn about each other's differences and deal with them. right?

but he doesn't get it.

do u quit the relationship or deal with it, move on and hope that u will actually get to death do us part?

i can't be the only one defending this union anymore...