GET OUT OF MY FACE!

this is a very-tak-puas-hati post. u have been warned.

i've always been one to receive passing comments from others, especially people from the office. there is also a similar post about my coldness on people asking me stupid questions.

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examples of the comments and my "witty" answers to them:

"eh kenapa u nampak gemuk ah?"
can people who say this to me get shot? or receive a very very very slow & painful death?
sensitivity level from 1-10 (10 being the super-duper-bee-bop-a-booper sensitive) = 150.

"balik rumah ke? laki dia ada kat rumah lah tu"
i go back home during lunch time a lot just because i can. i've worked here for over a year and this has been my routine at lunch (it's not like it's a fucking secret), and STILL these simplistic morons want to have a say on where i should eat and who should be at my home. salah ke aku balik rumah aku sendiri? kalau laki aku ada kat rumah pun, APA SALAHNYA? DAH SAH KAN? APA LAGI YANG NAK SINDIR2 TU? ko ni bodoh ke buat2 bodoh? laki aku keja kat KL lah bangang, takkan dia nak balik rumah that's 25km away?

"balik rumah lagi? hari2 ke balik?"
jawapan seperti di atas.

"how come u not going home today?"
lahaulawalaa.. suka hati aku lah! macam polis pencen, banyak betul soal!

"laju je jalan, dah lambat ke?"
eh sukati aku la nak jalan lambat ke, slow ke, apa masalah kau?

"jalan pun dah lain dah tu"
i don't know where this rumour started or how it started, but it seems that these morons think that i'm pregnant. it must be the baju that i wore the other day, farking hell. so what if aku jalan lain? maybe aku sakit kaki ke, sakit hati ke, mana kau tau?

"sikitnya nasi dia, tambah la sikit lagi. diet ke?"
(we get free lunch everyday at the cafeteria, so we eat beramai-ramai macam kat asrama dulu)
ha-ah, aku memang dah lama diet, sejak keluar dari perut mak aku lagi.

"wuish banyaknya nasi dia, lapar ke? ada apa2 kot"
yarabbi, sikit salah, banyak salah. what do u want from me?? and isn't it natural human physics: a lot of food on plate indicates hunger. and ada apa2 kot tu apa maksud dia? nak cakap aku ngandung ke? kalau aku ngandung pun apa salahnya? bukannya anak haram!

"laju je makan"
ha-ah, saja je aku nak tercekik. ko suka tengok aku tercekik kan?

"your face got many red red dots lah. why not licin anymore?"
oii i think u're crossing the line from being friendly to being irritatingly annoying here. do i ask u what's wrong with your face even when u look like rudolph the red-nosed reindeer with that gynourmous zit on your fugly nose?
sensitivity level from 1-10 = 12.

"waa so sexy one ah u"
u jealous or u want some?

"busy ke? atau buat2 busy?"
apa ko pedulik? ko bayar gaji aku ke?

"tengah buat apa tu? senyap je"
tengah main ngan diri aku sendiri.

"eh dah lama tak nampak kau. keja tak?"
aku kena kidnap aritu, tak tau ke?

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these are just some of the comments that i get from these people. and i get them everyfuckingday. i'm not kidding. it's like they just want to slip in a comment so that i won't forget of their pathetic existence. aku tak tahan!!! can't they just leave me alone???

or i can also blame it on the melayu culture - strive to be polite to one another, even with a simple "apa khabar". but these planktons have managed to twist that culture and make it into an annoying habit. inilah punca gejala "hai kaklong, sorang je?".

there's another thing that i hate - people giving advice when it's not asked for. they think that if they're older than u, they're automatically wiser. kalau aku nak nasihat, aku mintaklah, right? but noooo.. this happens a lot of times, if not everyday. suddenly they'd sit with u and talk about their "experiences" and freely give u "advice" like u have all the time in world to listen to their crap.

nak je aku cakap

"tak tanya pon".

gracefully? whoever said this must be delusional part2

in a mildly-desperate attempt to catch up with my youth, or better known as instant-gratification-technique-when-u-just-need-smthg-new/refreshing-in-your-life, i traded my nokia for another nokia.

tadahh!!

my new nokia 5300 - picture taken at 2 days old.

i know i know, it looks a tad childish for me to sport, but this is my fun phone - to listen to the mp3 and stuff.. for business-y occasions, i still have my moto - which is quivering from the fear that it too will be outmoded soon.

i do this every few months. on average, every 6 months.. yes people, i have an addiction -

me: hi everyone my name is zeeda

HANDPHONES ANONYMOUS: hi zeeda

*silly grin*

gracefully? whoever said this must be delusional part1

this morning i drove to work thinking about 'getting older'.. i was thinking of how age just suddenly comes and sneaks up on u, without giving a notice or a memo..

it's like -

suddenly one morning u wake up and look in the bathroom mirror to find wrinkles around your then-taut eyes no matter how much anti-aging cream u slather on..

your hair has lost its sheen it once had..

then u look down at your hands and u think - who's replaced my hands with dry wrinkly ones over the night?

u look further down at your tummy, hips, ass and thighs and think - hey where did this bulge come from? and why is it that i cannot fit into my skinny jeans anymore? no let me rephrase that, why is it that i look fat in my skinny jeans?

luckily i don't have a problem with my calves & feet so i'm not gonna say anything, lest i jinx my only good body parts.. *touches wood*

the best thing is, your nephews and niece are all of school-going age in the blink of an eye. and u still remember them when they puked all over u, cried if their poo is not cleaned and didn't answer back.

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yeah age is catching up real fast.. and i'm not exactly ready for it..

i was reading so many of other people's blogs these past few days and i found that they are doing what i did in my earlier 20s - hanging out with frens until the wee hours, going out everyday, partying every other week... sigh.. now all that's left in me is a good night watching tv and i'll be glad as hell if i get a full night's sleep..

plus being married just made me feel older i guess.. or maybe more mature (a much nicer word).. it automatically made me comfortable with just sitting around at home without the desperate need to be doing smthg outside with frens, even if it is just for a teh tarik... i do miss those days, seriously.. but spirit willing, flesh weak lah.. dah tak larat dah sebenarnya.. like the other night i went out with my buddy carie.. we used to meet up for teh tarik from 9pm to 3am.. we'd talk non-stop and laugh and gossip.. but that night, we went back at 10pm after meeting at 7pm, which was interspersed with shopping some more.. see what i mean?? *sighs* and u won't believe the conversations we had - babies, cooking, recipes, interior decor, bla3 - it made me think back about the conversations i had before - boys, makeup, boys, makeup, clothes clothes clothes, whine about boys - hey that's what i still talk about with my girls! haha

i thought i'd always age gracefully, well that's been a fun illusion. i still feel like i'm a 22 year old - still feel playful, still feel giddy, still feel elastic.. but alas, the keyword is feel.. *sighs again*

this song prolly represents my feelings best...

landslide by dixie chicks

I took my love and I took it down I climbed a mountain and I turned around And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills Well the landslide brought me down Oh, mirror in the sky What is love Can the child within my heart rise above Can I sail thru the changing ocean tides Can I handle the seasons of my life Well, I've been afraid of changing 'cause I built my life around you But time makes you bolder Children get older I'm getting older too So, take this love and take it down Year and if you climb a mountain and ya turn around And if you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills Well the landslide brought me down And if you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills Well maybe Well maybe Well maybe the landslide will bring you down

so depressing lah.

i hope i'll feel ok when i meet the 30-year-old me in 3 months' time..

smelly brat / movie marathon

these are cute conversations my sister had with my little smelly brat nephew:

no. 1

kakcik: ayen nanti kita gi langkawi ok, naik aeroplane and gi on the cable car.
ayen: yeaaaa... tapi babah takleh nayik, nanti tali putuihhh...
kakcik: hmmmmm

(hehe)

no. 2

kakcik: OMIGODDDDDD AYEN U KENCIN DLM SELUOR AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!
ayen: mana ada.... ni ayor jer, bukan ayen buat!!!!!!
kakcik: ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

(haha)

no. 3

kakcik: do u "miss" abang? (macam ler dia tau apa meaning of "miss" pun kan..)
ayen: ayen "suka" abang....
kakcik: awwwwwwwww

(sho shweet :)

no. 4

kakcik: kenapa ayen tak panggil adam tu "abang"?
ayen: adam tu "abang" laaaaa....
kakcik: $#(&##*(&%$

(hihihi)

the things that come out of that 4 1/2 year old's mouth.. tsk tsk tsk.

that's smelly brat (left) and my sexy niece, Girl aka Cipah (a duplicate of the Ashu i guess =)

me with smelly brat and the black monster aka (abang) adam (yes they are quite dark compared to the rest of the family, curse of the black race which my sister is not fond of maybe)

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review time.

throughout the wkend we watched 2 movies only - ghost rider and dreamgirls.

1. ghost rider

this is the movie version of the comic book by marvel ( i think it's marvel).. i've never heard of this comic book so i was a bit surprised to see 'marvel' at the beginning of the show. don't go into the cinema with any expectation - even though the main actor is nicolas cage.

the fx was quite good, everytime they show the horrible faces on the big screen, i tend to curl up in my seat and close my eyes cos they are very gruesome images. but don't take my word for it lah, i'm just a scaredy cat.
i give it a B+.

2. dreamgirls

this is a story loosely based on diana ross and the supremes - how they started, what they had to go through, how they got to be big stars - etc. newcomer jennifer hudson (american idol finalist season 4 kot) is a brilliant actress, to my delight. that means AI doesn't generate meaningless singers but ones who are very talented in other areas as well.. she got nominated for best actress for the coming oscar's so that shows how good she is..

also, don't go into the cinema with any expectations lah, even if u already know that it's a star-studded show - beyonce, eddie murphy, jamie foxx and the oscar-nominated jennifer hudson to say the least.. if u can stand a musical, then this is a good movie for u because there'll be sudden bursts of breaking into song from the characters (which made the other audience laugh - silly malaysians). the songs are all related to the issues that they are facing at the time and the list of songs on the soundtrack is very appealing to me - very soulful, my kinda genre. made my tears stream down my face at certain parts... so touching.

i give this an A.

i watched this other movie yesterday with heidey, i.e.
3. music & lyrics

heheh finally dapat jugak aku tengok citer ni.

hugh grant with his casual wit and drew barrymore with her childish charm.. she's got this aura around her that made us didn't want to take our eyes off her (this is partly due to hugh's aging features, which have turned heidey off, but mostly we were drooling at the clothes that drew wore OMG they're sooooo larvelly!!)

plot very simple: girl meets boy, boy finds girl appealing, girl also thinks boy is cool, they hook up, get into a disagreement along the way, girl merajuk, boy pujuks, they get back together and live happily thereon after..

i have 3 words to describe it - sweet, charming & funny. the best ingredients of a romantic comedy.

i won't rate it - just go watch :)

another signature hugh grant line:

drew: i want to go to florida where i can grow..
hugh: that's ridiculous! no one grows in florida... except if they're oranges
drew: ??? -sighs heavily-

haha

a skip in my heartbeat

we had a very long lionel richie chinese new year wkend... i've always had a thing for his songs and the lover even has his cd, so last saturday as we started our little holiday rolling in the car, he pulled out the cd and inserted it into the player.. i didn't know what cd he had at first cos the player doesn't see that many cds in its lifetime.. i was delighted at the song that came out while the lover smiled and kissed me with a knowing in his eyes.. i love him for these little things..

the whole of last wkend that lasted until tuesday, all we did was sleep in, cooked and watched movies (reviews will come in another post ;), did some light shopping and read our books in the most relaxing fashion - no stress, no running for time - just... relaxed...

but the best part of all was that while we were listening to mr. richie everytime we get in the car, at one point, he dedicated a song to me, which is my most favourite song of all from the artist - penny lover..

and it goes smthg like this:

The first time I saw you
Oh, you looked so fine
And I had a feeling
One day you'd be mine
Honey you came along and captured my heart
Now my love is somewhere lost in your kiss
When I'm all alone it's you that I miss
Girl a love like yours is hard to resist
Oh, oh, ooh, ooh, oh

Penny lover, my loves on fire
Penny lover, you're my one desire
Tell me baby could this be true
That I could need someone, like I need you

Nights warm and tender
Lying next to you
Girl I surrender
Oh, what more can I do
I've spent all of my life in search of your love
Now theres one more thing I'd like to say
Dont you ever take your sweet love away
Girl I'll do anything, just please stay
Oh, oh

I dont understand it, oh what's come over me
But I'm not gonna worry, no not anymore
cause when a man's in love, he's only got one story
That's why my love is somewhere lost in your kiss
When I'm lost and alone it's you that I miss
With a love like yours, it's hard to resist
Ooh, ooh, oh

Penny lover, dont you walk on by (dont you walk on by)
Penny lover, dont you make me cry (dont you make me cry baby)
Penny lover, dont you walk on by (dont you walk on by)
Penny lover, dont you make me cry (oh penny baby)
Penny lover, dont you walk on by (dont you walk on by)
I remember the first time I saw you baby
Penny lover, dont you make me cry
You had the look in your eye, you had the look in your eye, yeah, yeah
Ooh pretty baby
I just wanted to reach out and touch you baby
I just want to reach out and hold ya, I want to reach out and say ooh, ooh
Dont make me cry
I wanna talk about you everyday (penny lover)
Need you, need you baby ...

i know i didn't marry the most romantic person on earth, but hey this is a damn good attempt don't u think?

and i know i didn't marry the most handsome man either cos as nature has it, looks will fade.. it's what's inside the heart that matters - the kindness and the generosity, the thoughtfulness and basically the love he has for me - that's what counts. i know i have someone to cuddle with every night and someone to share my hopes, dreams and worries with.. i'd be a bit sceptical if i had married a brad pitt, i would be thinking to myself every other day, "how long will this last?" seeing that i'm as insecure as i am.. even jennifer aniston got dumped so who has any guarantees for me right?

so anyway, this last wkend got us even closer than we already are and i'm glad for that..

i think i'm just gonna make this song "our" song... :)

blogwhore: can't stay away from blogging, not even for a day

annoying chinese colleague: u look like u have a baby
me: whaa??
colleague: look like u have be-bi
me: *under my breath* BITCH!

i wore this lovely top for the first time, which i thought was damn lovely, even the lover said i looked nice. however, i do kind of know that it makes me look an itty-bitty preggers. just a little mind u, but it does not warrant a comment from the annoying biyatch (whom i must say, have been getting on my nerves with her incompetent way of answering phone calls and constantly being rude to the people on the other end as well as her own boss). she has no social skills whatsoever to live in my world, and if she goes to china, i bet she will never come back cos she fits right in.

god i hate her. even her voice makes me sick to the stomach. her laugh is even more torturous.

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gwen stefani has gone from cool to fool. what's with the platinum blonde hair and her adulation with the japanese girls? one album with a harajuku theme is enough, gwen. now u're just overdoing it, trailer trash. does she have a fetish for these girls? maybe she gets off from them.

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fergie has been bit by the spelling bee - every song, well 2 at least that i've heard so far, features her and a smoked-out rapper s-p-e-l-l-i-n-g completely "difficult" words for us. wow, thanks for the community service ferbie. whoops, how do u spell your name again?

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today i am in a sursprisingly good mood (no, we didn't do it last night altho it was a malam jumaat). enough rest maybe.. the lover was very thoughtful last wkend and bought some electrical items that can alleviate my asthma - an air ionizer and a water based vacuum cleaner that can also vacuum away dustmites (one of the major reasons for asthmatics like me get our attacks). he also bought me a food steamer (now i can learn how to steam that fish!) and a beater (eh? what's that? alaa it's one of those things that electrically whizzes around beating eggs or icing sugar or whatever. i seriously can't recall its name - HELP ME!)

so anways, we now sleep peacefully at night without the ahchooos we get from too much dust flying around our heads (yes, i'm a lazy good for onething undomestic goddess).

more sleep = more relaxed = more love = *wink*

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i love watching american idol. i know it's stupid to wait for it to come every wed & thurs and going back home early to catch it at 6pm instead of the rerun at 8pm. but i love it anyway. i don't care if people think of me as shallow or airheaded. i wish the show would just go on and on without me having to anticipate it every week. no, i do not like watching the old seasons. i just love watching the new ones.

i also love watching america's next top model and project runway. see? every one of these shows are american. i wish i was born an american *sigh*.

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happy chinese new year, y'all. enjoy the long wkend :)

percutian

valentine's day came and went without me noticing. nope, actually i did notice it cos it was our financial controller's bday as well. so we sang her a bday song (no valentine song, too corny), she blew out the candles, cut the cake, we each had a slice, i was happy.

then, the lover and i watched 'the holiday' last night (cheap movie day!). we were late arriving at the cinema (traffic was a right bitch to sunway pyramid on a wednesday doubled as val's day) so we missed the first 10mins of the show. nevertheless, caught it just in time.

this is what i thot of the movie.

i came into the movie theatre having high hopes for the show as it features JT's ex, the titanic biyatch (who let my leo drown - shite to her), mr. yummy jude lorr and the perpetually high blackjack. whoaa.. cast very the terrer one. sure best ni kan?

the funny thing is, i thought the cinematography was not the best one i've seen, the acting was so-so, and the storyline was - OMG i'm sorry to have to say this - cheesy! i, the empress of the chickflick land (i have a shitload of dvds to prove it), did not fall in love with this typical romantic comedy? where did it go wrong?

well... cammy was boring; jude's teeth were somewhat different in this movie from the ones he had in 'alfie' - so it made him look, well, not like him; blackjack was sober, i mean, he wasn't a crazy wild character like in his other movies, which is endearing to me; and kate was... hmm.. british.

nevertheless, i love the british wit. love love love. and the accent. sheeshh best gilos. i know that if i go to the UK, i'd pick up the accent quite quickly cos i have a knack for these things.. yaa, i'm one of those people who would go abroad and retain the accent when i come back. i'm ashamed of this about myself, but it's true *blush*.

and talking about british wit, i will definitely go and catch hugh grant's 'music & lyrics'. he's my fave british romantic comedy actor, like ever. his wit is razor sharp i tell u. i still remember his dialogue with sandra bollocks in '2 weeks notice':

hugh: tell me which tie looks nicer with this shirt.
sandy: -in disbelief- this is the emergency? u called me from my best fren's wedding for this?
hugh: well, i value your opinion very much!
sandy: -wailing- u are the most selfish person i've ever met on this planet!
hugh: that's ridiculous.. have u met every person on this planet?
sandy: ??? -storms off-

haha it goes smthg like that lah, not verbatim ok. my memory's rusty, so shoot me.

i digress as i always do, yet again.

so what were we talking about just now? oh yes 'the holiday'. i'd love to do that one day, do a home exchange program with someone from the states or uk or aussie maybe, why not. anywhere with mat sallehs. i don't care really.

loved cammy's wardrobe, wish i had her body.. no, that's never gonna happen.. well, i can wish to have kate's body at least.. and her hair, and her accent, and her life possibly. i hate mine right now. care to join my life exchange program for 2 weeks? ;)

all in all, the ending was a feel-good one, thankyouverymuch for saving the show. everyone ended up with the one they're supposed to and the credits rolled to them dancing in the living room of a strange house. one of their houses lah. i give it a C+.

the only A+ i can give is the lover keeping me warm under the blanky we brought. niiiiiice :)

psst... i used to have hair like cammy in this show when i was in college.. oh how i miss that hair *sniff*.

percutian saya ke phuket akan bermula dalam 20 hari. start the countdown!! woohooo :D

to: ANONYMOUS

please go to the particular blog entry that had caused u to call me names, and read my reply. i have taken out the previous post and replaced it with a few comments of my own, to u and only u (it is still under the same title).

thanks.

Grils' Dinner Gathering @ 10 Feb 2007 (Saturday)

kayun the piglet

i made the chicken, soup & rice. the rest are donations.

my larvelly chicken rice :)

practising with Nya's baby - Chloe Jasmyn

(L-R) Wyre (Ez's hubs), Ez, Nya, Faizol (Nya's hubs)

(L-R) Ez excitedly talking to the chicken, Nya and Faizol baru nak start makan

the sweets for the night

(L-R) Shahreen, Kayun, Ez, Rina aka Chik, me, Nya & Baby Chloe

Chloe was the (practice) babe of the night :D

(chloe thinking: i feel so used)

the faces of PPP

rina tak tau pakai camera teehee

(far left) shahreen's future bf/hubs? insyaallaaahhh amin ;)

after 13 years of frenship, of sharing the ultimate ups and downs, we can safely and sincerely call ourselves "real frens"..

from the datings to the breaking-ups, the weddings to the birthings of new babies, the fights and the make ups, we've been there for each other, through thick and thin..

u are my frens, my confindants, my sisters...

As we walk our path of life, We meet people everyday.

Most are simply met by chance. But, some are sent our way.

These become special friends, Whose bond we can't explain;

The ones who understand us, And share our joy and pain.

Their love contains no boundaries. So, even we are apart.

Their presence enhances us, With a warmth felt in the heart.

This love becomes a passageway, When even the miles disappear.

And so, these friends, God sends our way,

Remain forever near.

(source: unknown)

things can only get bettar :S

resisting hugs and cuddles can only result in backaches & neck sprains.

going to bed angry can only make u older faster.

driving in kl can only make u a bitchy driver.

comparing your driver's license and your IC photos, which were taken 10 years apart, can only make u depressed.

eating too much sugar can only give u a temporary high, but it becomes a permanent resident on your ass.

not dieting for a beachy holiday that's coming up soon can only make u look like a fat piggy in your swimwear - and make u more depressed (great. they've finally found the mascot for chinese new year of the pig).

but....

reading the musings of a gay boy can only make u smile and laugh and keep u occupied throughout the day, which makes u feel better.

;-)

nando's chicken with snot, anyone?

i had lunch just now with heidey at nando's parade (where the robbing/shooting happened *gasp* but hungry people need to be fed, right?) and sitting next to our table was a couple of women, an aunty and a siew che.

so we were waiting for our food to arrive, and the aunty had already gone halfway on her food. and then she did it.

*SNORT* (purging out whatever's been living in her nostrils).

heidey and i rolled our eyes at each other. ok never mind.

then our food arrived and we dug in and didn't even speak to each other for a good 10 mins. and then she did it again.

*SNORRRRRT*

i looked at the aunty and said "excuse me, we're eating" quite nicely and calmly i might add, no anger intoned whatsoever.

she looked at me bewilderedly, like how-dare-u kind of way. and i continued eating my yummy lemon & herbs chicken happily, while feeling the glares of the two ogres next to us. i pretended they didn't exist.

out of geram-ness i suppose, the aunty was trying to make her presence felt by not snorting anymore but coughing up imaginary phlegm in her throat, as if a rat was stuck in there. i still kept my serene eating look and continued smiling at my plate of grilled chicken, chips + slaw, all the while noticing that they were talking in chinese about me. then, their bill came and they paid.

when the aunty and the siew che walked past our table to leave (cos that's the only way out) she whispered "shit" so i calmly said "shit u back". a coupla steps away she said "shit" again then i calmly again said, a bit louder for her to hear me correctly "shit u back". but all the while i was smiling doing it.

it was so stupid, it didn't even infuriate me haha :) heidey said her "shit" sounded like she sneezed, it was almost cute bwahahaha!

but anyway, siapa yang salah, tuan-tuan dan puan-puan?

was it wrong for me to say 'excuse me' to her and stop her from gagging on our food with her nose snorting?

aunty, kalau nak hembus hingus, pegilah makan kat kedai kopi tepi jalan yang i know u love and frequent so much. boleh lah kau duduk dengan satu kaki atas kerusi and korek hidung kan? kat sana sure takde orang akan cakap "excuse me" to u hahahaaa!

go back to your kampung la and don't eat nando's chicken anymore. huhuuu :D

what do u think...?

*a wandering mind's opinion on the subject of feb 14*

it's a basic human need - to love and be loved.

but what do u think..... of valentine's day?

day of love?
day to show your love to your loved one(s)?
day of splurging on your significant other?
day of romping?
day of bliss?

i say it's all a conspiracy to rip people off.

aside from the fact that u vaguely know who this valentine dude is and what he did to warrant such a day, and not forgetting that it's against the muslim teachings because apparently this valentine person was a saint of the christian faith yada yada (who gives a crap right?), more importantly and above all else - valentine's day is so OVER-COMMERCIALISED, it's totally bullshit.

now, i have no qualms over the normal affection and romance u'd like to shower your other half with on this particular day, like: giving flowers, chocolates & candies, other cutesie lovey stuff, plan for a romantic dinner, stay in a hotel for a night, bla3... i mean, i've been there and done all that when i was younger and more naive. what i can't stand is the fact that marketers take full advantage over these poor souls and rip them off of their hard-earned money! and i can't understand why these so-called "poor souls" even succumb to it. maybe they're just morons after all and i shouldn't give them due credit? whatever man. even if u are a well-to-do person, i still think it's just a rip-off if u pay so much money on one day of the year when it is condoned to charge the consumers overpriced flowers and candies and dinners. when the hell did it become condoned anyway?

so i ask u, where has the sanctity of love gone to? lost in the midst of all the advertising, promotions and marketing events that only benefit the organisations who initiated and over-commercialised the sacrilegious idea in the first place? in this very situation, love becomes a diluted word. love becomes a scapegoat. love becomes meaningless.

nevertheless, it takes two to tango. without the supply, there would be no demand, and vice versa. it's like an ugly tug of war - with the corporations laughing all the way to the bank at the people who actually cough up money, hard-earned money mind u (by now u'd know that i don't make that much, right? haha damn right i don't) and sucker them into buying what they define as "love". remember: love should not be defined by anybody but yourself.

to me, love is not giving extravagant things (although it would be nice hehe hey i'm just a girl). love is the little things that u show your (for eg:) other half like holding hands, hugging, kissing, communicating, listening, being mindful of each others needs/wants, being thoughtful towards him/her, paying attention to him/her.... just being with him/her, providing companionship. after all, God did give Adam his Eve when he complained that he was lonely.

showing your love to your other loved ones like parents, siblings or friends, i'm sure u know how because one's relationships with the people around him/her are unique to him/her. but i think showing your love to your parents and siblings can be done by just spending time with them.. just do anything, like sit and watch tv together, talk with them about anything, bringing them out for makan angin, taking them grocery shopping, etc... i think these activities that u have done with your family, things that they have conducted over and over again with u ever since u were born, will only strengthen your bond with them..

i think the world would be a better place without a "valentine's day". just think, no one would create such cunning marketing tactics to steer people into thinking that paying for love is showing love, and people like us would be more creative in showing love to our loved ones. don't get me wrong. i don't oppose the idea of giving things to your loved ones or spending them on expensive dinners or holidays to show them how much u love them. i just oppose the idea of doing all this on valentine's day. it's preposterous.

the cliched saying of "love is supposed to be celebrated everyday" rings so many truths, it hurts if u don't understand what it means..

wouldn't it be much much nicer if u showed your love on normal days...

• on days when u feel tired after a long hard working day, your lover treats u at your favourite restaurant for a good meal - just because..


• on days when u feel nothing special will happen to u, your lover delivers a bouquet of roses to your office - just because..


• on days when u feel unappreciated, your lover sits down with u and listens to your every complaint..


• on days when u feel like the whole world is against u, your lover pulls u and holds u tightly, as if nothing can ever harm u again and makes u feel a bit better, even if for a while..

i appreciate these things much much more. wouldn't u?

and it'd be more personal if u celebrate love on birthdays and anniversaries. now that's more meaningful because the specific day carries significant meaning only to u and your lover..

i'm sure some of u are saying: "eleh, kalau laki dia bagi bunga and bawak dia pegi dinner on valentine's, sure dia suka jugak". well, that tells me how much u know me. 'nuf said.

so a word to the naive: don't let anyone tell u how to show your love to your significant other, especially not valentine's day marketers. i majored in marketing so i would know. it's all a gimmick, a trick, a con to reap more profit for their organisations. that's all there is to it.

don't be the vulnerable sheep and the gullible cows.

have some principle.

the long wkend

many things happened over the wkend and i shall not bore u nor myself over the intricate details of it all.. a picture speaks a thousand words, right? well here are several thousand words for your viewing pleasure.

enjoy!

thaipusam thursday - no pix but i went to straighten my hair :)

sugary friday

tiring saturday
bloaty sunday

note: i made the nasi briyani, stir-fried veges and the brownies.. the rest were courtesy of the girls. the surprising thing is, jjay, who can't cook to save her life, made the custard fruit cocktail! props to her yo! ;)